Similarly, the synonymous consensual non-consent is equally conflicting, but is a little clearer about the concepts involved. It’s a phrase that causes some dissonance because they involve two inherently contradictory words – rape implies a lack of consent, whereas fantasy implies willingness. In order to talk about these things, we need to clearly define what I mean by rape fantasy. Let’s talk a little bit about rape fantasy and guilt.ĭefining Rape Fantasy, or Consensual Non-Consent